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Finding Answers TO Personal Problems Via Talking And Writing
By Connor Sullivan on December 15, 2009 |
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At some point in their lives, just about everyone has some type of personal problem or question that they need to work through. Sometimes a person can work out a problem alone, but often having a person to listen and clarify can make the process go more quickly. Discussing ideas with another person can bring out aspects that a single person would not think of. In Arizona, Scottsdale therapists can provide the fresh point of view that is needed. In Phoenix counseling is available from many sources.
There may be other times when you can work out things yourself or by unburdening to a loved one. If you choose to do this, you want to select the friend carefully. The best friend/advisor is thoughtful and impartial and able to look at both sides of the question with objectivity. If you open your soul to someone who can see only your side, you might as well just talk to yourself. A friend who sees only your point of view will only reinforce your view of the situation when maybe you should take a different path. This is the most important trait of a therapist. A therapist is trained to maintain objectivity and will help you to see both sides of the question.
No matter how you choose to attack your problem, there is one tool that is useful in any situation. Start keeping a journal. A journal provides a way for you to talk to yourself. A journal is not a diary. A diary is a daily record of your doings. A journal, in contrast, is a private place to record your thoughts, feelings, and ideas. You might or might not write in it every day; its purpose is to be there when you have something to say. It may take practice to become comfortable with writing on paper your deepest, private thoughts, but, as with any other activity, practice will make it easier.
Another tactic that helps is to keep the words flowing even when you think you have nothing to say. Just put down every thought, even if it seems insipid and meaningless. See what I mean? I just did it myself. Eventually something of worth will appear on your paper. When that happens, you will be off and running. The fun of keeping a journal is that, at some point, you will read what you have written and find a gem of wisdom. In surprise, you will say, "Wow! I said that!?"
You can find a huge assortment of fancy journals in stores such as bookstores and card shops. These can cost more than you want to spend. A fancy book may be nice, but it is not necessary. The most convenient journal is an inexpensive spiral notebook from the dollar store. There is one last caution. Be sure to find a good hiding place for this journal because the temptation to read is all but irresistible to the person who stumbles across it. If you know your family is trustworthy, you might tell them it is there but sincerely request that they respect your privacy. |
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Connor Sullivan recently studied new (http://www.mmcounseling.com/) Scottsdale therapists while conducting research for an article. His new article will pay particular attention to (http://www.mmcounseling.com/) Phoenix counseling practices and the results they achieve. Get a totally unique version of this article from our (http://www.uberarticles.com/home.php?id=1226349&b=20988) article submission service |
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